According to the psychologist, it is impossible to keep each stage of the development of the child under the strict control of the parents. So the child will never learn to make independent choices, and even simple tasks, he will not be able to solve without parental help.

Also, the total control of loved ones can cause a child to rebel, which will develop into rudeness and complete disobedience.

Our article will help to properly raise a child so that he grows up independent, endowed with self-confidence.

– Learn to use the daily routine.

The child should have a clear understanding of the routine, duties and freedom provided. Create a proper daily routine for your child so that he can plan his affairs, games and walks, because this will teach him to be independent. He must learn to take care of himself, for example:

* prepares clothes for tomorrow and dresses independently in the morning. Takes his dirty clothes to the laundry;

* prepares cutlery on the dining table and takes dirty dishes to the dishwasher or washes some of the dishes. He chooses a snack for himself or prepares it on his own and puts it in a briefcase if this is a schoolboy.

To make the child comfortable, place things, utensils and everything you need on low shelves that are convenient for him.

– Learn to solve small problems and read on your own.

If a child has any problems, do not rush to solve them yourself, but give this opportunity to your child.

* If he has friction with a brother or sister, then teach him how to solve problems correctly: give in, take the side of a brother or sister, share, not compete, etc.

* With the help of role-playing games, you can visually teach your child how to independently solve problems and find a way out of difficult situations.

– No need to be afraid of mistakes.

The child should know that mistakes are not scary. They teach you what to do next time. Therefore, the child should not be afraid to make them. He must know that his parents will not punish him for random mistakes.

* The child may not write down and do homework. For this, he will be punished at school, getting a bad grade. But next time, he will be more attentive in the lessons and will not forget to take notes about the assignments.

* He was spinning around the table and accidentally spilled his tea. Do not scold him, but invite him to wipe the spilled liquid. Next time, he will be more attentive.

– Be sensitive.

The child should know that you are always there and help him solve any problems, but he must learn to do it all on his own. Talk to your child more often about the benefits of independence. Intelligibly tell him why he should learn to solve many problems himself, and how this will help him in later life.

Smiling little boy talking with cheerful child psychotherapist during therapy session at office

As you give your child more freedom and independence, be sure to discreetly supervise him so that he does not cause injury and physical pain to himself.

– Allow them to make their own decisions.

Let him decide for himself what clothes you buy him, what he will eat for lunch or breakfast. Let him choose a convenient time for preparing lessons, you can adjust a little if necessary.

If the child does not want to go to summer camp, then do not insist, but listen to his wishes.

Do not rush with hints, let him make a decision in some situation, perhaps it will be better than yours.

– Decide what household chores he will perform.

This could be cleaning his room, working with a vacuum cleaner, putting dishes in the dishwasher, etc. He must remember that this is his duty, which no one else will do.

Gradually complicating the tasks, you will accustom your child to independence and the ability to solve their problems, without anyone’s help. This skill will help him in adulthood not to be afraid of difficulties.